Amaral & Associates, P.C. - Divorce, Family Law

Posts Tagged good mediator

Sound Reasons Why You Should Mediate Your Divorce.


I have been a divorce attorney for over 25 years and a divorce mediator for almost as long. When a potential client asks me whether they should mediate their divorce or whether they should just get their own attorney and file for a contested divorce, I tell them the following. A contested divorce can last well over a year. In fact, in Massachusetts, the tracking order assigned to your contested divorce is for fourteen (14) months. Which means that the life span of a contested divorce can be as much as 14 months. During this time frame, the parties will exchange financial documents, attend numerous hearings on temporary orders in court, have a pre-trial hearing followed up by status conferences and then a trial if your case does not settle. All of this discovery and all of the court hearings and meetings or phone call with your attorney will cost you money in legal fees both to you and your spouse. A divorce attorney can make 10-20 times more in legal fees on a contested case then they can … Read More »

Mediating Your Prenuptial Agreement

Prenup Massachusetts, Prenup Mass., Prenup Suffolk County, Prenup Middlesex County, Prenup Essex County, Prenup Norfolk County, Prenup Boston, Prenup Winthrop, Prenup East Boston, Prenup Revere, Prenup Danvers, Prenup Lynnfield, Prenup Marblehead, Prenup Swampscott, Prenup Nahant, Prenup Peabody, Prenup Salem, Prenup Saugus, Prenup Arlington, Prenup Belmont, Prenup Burlington, Prenup Cambridge, Prenup Everett, Prenup Malden, Prenup Medford, Prenup Melrose, Prenup North Reading, Prenup Reading, Prenup Somerville, Prenup Stoneham, Prenup Wakefield, Prenup Watertown, Prenup Wilmington, Prenup Winchester, Prenup Woburn, Prenup Brookline, Prenup Braintree, Prenup Milton, Prenup Quincy, Prenup Chelsea, Prenuptial Agreement Massachusetts, Prenuptial Agreement Mass., Prenuptial Agreement Suffolk County, Prenuptial Agreement Middlesex County, Prenuptial Agreement Essex County, Prenuptial Agreement Norfolk County, Prenuptial Agreement Boston, Prenuptial Agreement Winthrop, Prenuptial Agreement East Boston, Prenuptial Agreement Revere, Prenuptial Agreement Danvers, Prenuptial Agreement Lynnfield, Prenuptial Agreement Marblehead, Prenuptial Agreement Swampscott, Prenuptial Agreement Nahant, Prenuptial Agreement Peabody, Prenuptial Agreement Salem, Prenuptial Agreement Saugus, Prenuptial Agreement Arlington, Prenuptial Agreement Belmont, Prenuptial Agreement Burlington, Prenuptial Agreement Cambridge, Prenuptial Agreement Everett, Prenuptial Agreement Malden, Prenuptial Agreement Medford, Prenuptial Agreement Melrose, Prenuptial Agreement North Reading, Prenuptial Agreement Reading, Prenuptial Agreement Somerville, Prenuptial Agreement Stoneham, Prenuptial Agreement Wakefield, Prenuptial Agreement Watertown, Prenuptial Agreement Wilmington, Prenuptial Agreement Winchester, Prenuptial … <a href= Read More »

The Benefits of Settling Your Divorce or Family Law Case Outside of Court

Divorce Massachusetts, Divorce Mass., Divorce Suffolk County, Divorce Middlesex County, Divorce Essex County, Divorce Norfolk County, Divorce Boston, Divorce Winthrop, Divorce East Boston, Divorce Revere, Divorce Danvers, Divorce Lynnfield, Divorce Marblehead, Divorce Swampscott, Divorce Nahant, Divorce Peabody, Divorce Salem, Divorce Saugus, Divorce Arlington, Divorce Belmont, Divorce Burlington, Divorce Cambridge, Divorce Everett, Divorce Malden, Divorce Medford, Divorce Melrose, Divorce North Reading, Divorce Reading, Divorce Somerville, Divorce Stoneham, Divorce Wakefield, Divorce Watertown, Divorce Wilmington, Divorce Winchester, Divorce Woburn, Divorce Brookline, Divorce Braintree, Divorce Milton, Divorce Quincy, Divorce ChelseaAll divorce and family law cases are stressful and emotional. Sometimes the first instinct of parents and spouses is to tell their ex “See you in court.” Although it can be emotionally satisfying to have your day in court and have your case heard by a Probate and Family Court judge, it may not be beneficial to you or your children.


Probate and Family Court judges all have very large dockets and caseloads. Each judge tries to give an adequate amount of time to each case, but given the backlog within the courts, this is not … Read More »

Is Divorce Mediation Right for You?

There are many benefits to divorce mediation, but it is not always right for each couple. If you are thinking about getting divorced, and you can’t decide whether to try divorce mediation, here are some things to consider.


In divorce mediation a couple can work together amicably to resolve the issues relating to the divorce. Through this process there is less stress and drama. Divorce mediation uses a collaborative process where you and your spouse are in control and make the decisions, and not a judge. It typically takes a shorter amount of time and is more cost effective. Rather than the spouse against spouse model of traditional litigation, this is a mutual process, and you can leave the mediation process on good terms, which does not always happen with litigation.


However, divorce mediation is not for everyone. There are certain circumstances where divorce mediation may not work. One instance is where this is a history or abuse or violence in the relationship, or where one spouse is over-bearing or controlling of the other spouse. Because of this imbalance in power and control, divorce mediation is not always beneficial for … Read More »

What Happens During a Divorce Mediation Session?

Divorce MediationCouples contemplating a divorce may consider divorce mediation as a cheaper, more amicable method to divorce. However, before selecting divorce mediation, couples may wonder what happens during a mediation session. This is a brief description of what happens in a mediation session.


There are many issues that must be addressed in a divorce: 1) child support, 2) child custody, 3) alimony, 4) division of property; 5) maintaining health insurance, and 6) filing taxes and child dependency exemptions. All of these topics must be addressed in mediation.


If you have children, of course one of the major issues to be addressed is custody and support. Thus, a large amount of time will be spent addressing who will have custody, what the parenting schedule will be like, who will pay child support, and how much. In addressing these issues, the parties will have consider:


How to share transportation of the children; Holiday and vacation parenting time; Children’s participation in extracurricular activities and sports, and how to pay for these activities; and Weekly parenting schedule


But in addition to these … Read More »

How to Find a Good Divorce Mediator? Your Five Rules of Thumb

good mediatorIf you came to the conclusion that you prefer to handle your divorce through mediation — you have made the right choice. Choosing a good divorce mediator is an essential step, and crucial to the success of the process. Here are five rules of thumb in choosing the right mediator for your divorce.

1. A good divorce mediator makes it easy and affordable for you.

Look for a divorce mediator who offers a flat fee for all the services they provide, as well as a free divorce consultation that includes a complete marital estate assessment. That way, you and your spouse know up front what is involved. Also, make sure your divorce mediator assists with the administrative filing of the divorce decree.

2. A good choice for a divorce mediator is an expert who is dedicated exclusively to the practice of divorce mediation.

Often times, you will find divorce mediators who are primarily private divorce litigation attorneys who practice divorce mediation as a secondary specialty. Although they can also be effective, a divorce litigation attorney is trained with a mindset that may not always be ideal for mediation. They are trained … Read More »

Download Our Divorce & Mediation Ebook click here

Request A Consultation

Bold labels are required.

Contact Information
Yes I have read the disclaimer

Privacy Policy


Winthrop Office
246 Revere Street
Winthrop, MA 02152

Phone: 617-539-1010
Fax: 617-539-0505
Winthrop Law Office Map

Boston Office
63 Atlantic Avenue
Boston, MA 02110

Phone: 617-742-2020
Boston Law Office Map